Never Felt So Alive

There are some things about guys and dating that I just can't stand ... well, more about guys.

1)  A guy who can't call, leave a message, and then wait for me to call him back.  I'm a busy girl.  I didn't answer for good reason.  I probably know that my phone rang.  I just couldn't get to it so calling right back or even a few minutes later is just going to annoy me.  (This is usually a deal breaker right here).

2)  A guy who invites himself out with me and my friends.  No, I don't want you to come along.  If I did want you to come, trust me, I would have invited you.

3)  A guy who gets offended when I say no to a last minute request to go out.  My time has to be booked two weeks in advance, seriously, and that's not because I think I'm Miss Popular.  It's because I work full-time, go to school, run errands and do housework (for both myself and my sister).  It doesn't leave a lot of free time.  On top of that, I am a single female in Atlanta.  If something breaks, I have to fix it myself (not easy ... what takes a guy 5 minutes to fix, takes me an hour) or I have to make some impossible arrangements to have it done for me.  No, I'm not asking for your help and no, I'm not complaining.  I'm just asking that guys consider this possibility.  Respect my busy schedule and I will respect you and make time for you.  And if I really like you, I might even start to schedule things around you.

4)  A guy who obviously isn't over his ex-girlfriend and is still trying something with me.  You can't hide it.  I can tell by the way they always brings her up or the look on his face when he talks about her.  No, I don't want to be your rebound girl.

5)  This kills me, seriously.  I die a little inside from aggravation everytime this happens.  When I go out with a guy and need to get home early because I have a long day ahead or whatever, the proper response to this is most definitely NOT, "B-But ... I changed my plans to go out with you!"  If you think you're going to impress a girl with the magnitude of your thoughtfulness with this statement, think again.  Yes, it might be somewhat flattering if a guy thinks you're worth changing plans for but the guilt trip is not cool.  I didn't ask you to change your plans.  I guess you shoulda thought about #4 before you did #5, huh?  In fact, this is applicable to all aspects of life and not just dating ... if you're going to do something thoughtful, it loses its thoughtfulness once you brag about, mention, or rub someone's face in it.

If a guy wants to explain this obnoxious guy behavior to me, or if any girls hear me on this one, please let me know!

What a crazy weekend/week so far!

Saturday, Val and I went to a frat party.  She gave most of the details in her blog so I'll spare most of the repetitiveness, but we met some GREAT people! 

Mom had called earlier that day, asking what we were up to that night.  I told her a frat party and she said, "Oh, I'm so glad you're attending school functions!" (No sarcasm, pure sincerity lol).  Ok Mom, if that's what you want to call it.

We got there and not long into it, we were thinking about ditching the party.  I told Val, "The later into the night it gets, the drunker people get, the less inhibited they get, and the more likely they are to talk to us."  Sure enough, they started coming up out of nowhere!  That's how we met "the Scotts", Aaron and Kyle.  We would have like to have stayed and met some more people, but I don't think we could pass up hanging out with these guys so we went drinking with them. 

What a crazy night!  I don't remember sleeping but then there are small spans of time where I don't remember what happened so I must have slept!  I do remember "night caps" ... lots of them, lol.  By the end of the night, we agreed that Kyle is hot and Aaron was a great guy but it was the Scotts who were all over us ... of course.

We left early Sunday morning.  I got some rest and got ready for my (COUNT IT!) third date with Jordan!  I think this is a record, people!  He didn't feel well and I was exhausted so we just laid around and watched a movie ... a date nonetheless.

Then, Monday Night Football!  Falcons vs. Eagles.  Jordan went to the game so Val and I went to watch the game on TV with Kyle and Aaron.  Another great night ... of course.  While there, we made plans to go to a concert Friday and camping Saturday.

Val asked me if I liked one more than the other.  I said that I kinda had a thing for Aaron.  I think she was relieved because she's got the hots for Kyle.  After Monday night, Kyle asked me if there was something between Aaron and me, says he thought he saw "something."  We'll see ...

So now, the four of us just couldn't wait to hang out again I guess so we're all going to a movie tonight! 

Haven't had this much fun since Ronnie and Jon!

Lots of news! 

Vegas is officially a go October 13-18!

Went out with Jordan AGAIN last night!  Amazing.  I can't remember the last time I had a SECOND date!  It was great.  We had 7:30pm dinner reservations last night, and he was going to make his specialty dessert once we got back to his place, but we were too full!  We watched a movie instead, which of course, led to making out.  Good kisser.  I realized last night that he bears a strong resemblance to Ben Affleck, which he says he gets a lot.

Last night, I also found out that Jordan is Jewish.  Well, there goes hope for an actual relationship!  I have heard too many bad stories about old, Jewish grandmothers who can't stand to hear their grandchildren are dating non-Jews.  I asked Jordan, "Doesn't that mean you have to date someone Jewish?"  He said he's NEVER dated a Jewish girl, says there aren't any cute ones, and definitely not any blonde-haired, blue-eyed ones!  :P  Oh well, we're just having a good times for now anyways!  We're hanging out again tomorrow. 

Today, I caught up on some sleep.  Jordan kept waking me up last night because I was either pushing him off the bed or I was snoring!  Real attractive, lol.  Tonight is a frat party with Val and our old friend, "Dre".  Should be fun. 

Side Note:  Funny conversation I had with Val the other night.  She was in bed, I was in the bathroom getting ready for bed ...

Me (yelling through the walls):  "I wonder why the cat doesn't sleep with us anymore ..."

Val:  (Silence.  No response for several minutes.)

Me:  "Are you asleep????"

Val:  "No, I was just trying to think of a funny response to that."

Me:  "Well, if you have to think that long, it probably wouldn't be very funny ..."

Val:  (Another long pause.)  "I mean ... yes, I'm asleep."  LOL

Latest Creepy Text Message:  "U dont think i cant find u if i really wanted 2?  If u say why u rnt responding then i go away n u dont have 2 worry about me finding u 2 get a response ... "

So, I broke down and changed my telephone number because I'm tired of dealing with this.  He sent me an IM that said, "You changed your phone number, I win!!!!"  I don't care that he "wins" though, I just don't want the constant phone calls and the insane text messages.  What a creep.  Who goes around trying to make other people's lives miserable?  Whatever. 

On a brighter note, I had another date last night.  Ok, ok so it was with Chuck who stood me up on Friday (Val gave me hell for that one just like I would expect her to :P).  But we were talking last night and kinda talked things out and ended up meeting at a bar for a couple of beers. 

I, of course, got lost on my way over there.  When I called him though for more directions, he was the sweetest when I was expecting him to be a jerk.  When I finally got there, I was surprised at how cute he was!  I had seen pictures, of course, but they didn't do him justice. 

We went inside and actually had a really great conversation.  He was so sure that we would not get along since we are so different--he is like the hippy-type and I'm pretty much a goody-two-shoes--so he was surprised at how well we clicked. 

I was so sure that he would be a jerk but I can't get over how sweet he was.  He told me I was pretty and "not boring like I thought you would be" lol.  He let me stay at his place, right across the street from the bar, since "a couple" beers for me is like 9 or 10 for the typical person ... and didn't even try anything.  We made out a little bit (great kisser!) but he didn't push anything more than that (also surprising, because the way he talks, you would think sex is all he thinks about).

Just goes to show that there is more to people than you may think and that those you wouldn't think you would get along with often prove you wrong.

Creepy Text Message of the Day:  "B much easier if u just said sumthin, i will never give up til u do, trust me on that!"

So aside from receiving this lovely text message mid-date, I had a great time with Jordan!  I was going to meet him outside his apartment complex but ended up getting lost and calling him three times trying to find my way.  Who knows where I ended up!  Finally, he offered to come meet me where I was ... at a StarBucks, perfect! 

When we first saw each other, the first thing he says to me is, "Wow, you're tall!"  Darn it.  I knew I should have gone with the flats instead of the heels!

So we had coffee, talked and then went to see The Constant Gardener.  Good movie but very VERY sad! 

There's not much else to tell.  Our conversation consisted mostly of talk about college and our hometowns.  I did get a hug and a kiss on the cheek at the end of the date.  Plus, he looked (and smelled) GREAT! 

This is the first date I've been on in a whole month, and it was totally worth the wait!

Tonight, I was supposed to have a date with Chuck.  I talked to him just yesterday and everything was still on, he said he would call me today to make plans.  Kristin also had a date with a guy who said he would do the same.  Well, Kris and I waited and waited.  No phone call ... for either of us!  Everytime one of our phones would ring, the other would gasp and whisper, "Who is it?!  Who is it?!" but it was never either of the guys.  Even Kristin's horoscope said she would be stood up tonight ("Don't count on plans going through tonight.  Better make other plans.")

So, we made plans with each other in the event that we were, in fact, being stood up.  Five o'clock rolled around and we gave up and went to Five Seasons Brewery with Adrian, her boyfriend Sean, Emily and Christy.  We had a great time and the food was fabulous.  We all ended up eating things we have never had before (lamb, leeks, caramelized apple pizza, salmon, sea bass, etc.). 

Val called around 8pm.  She bet me a pint of Ben and Jerry's ice cream that I would end up cancelling on this date.  She said that she was going to call and that she would want to talk to him to confirm that I was actually on the date.  So while I'm talking to her, the girls get our waiter in on the bet.  She's about to get off the phone when I say, "Well, wait ... don't you want to talk to him to confirm that I'm on my date??!"  The waiter talks to her for a few minutes, actually says something quite inappropriate and she hangs up on him. 

Now, I'm not going to jip my sister out of a pint of ice cream so I text her right back and tell her that was the waiter and not my date ...

 ... I don't owe her ice cream, do I?

Ok, I admit ... I am EXTREMELY picky when it comes to dating.  If a guy does any one thing that I don't like, I'm done.  I know that's why I'm still single and I really can't complain about being single because I bring it on myself!  But if I weren't single, I would miss being single ... weird how that works, huh?  So anyways, I'm picky ... but my biggest pet peeve is guys who call, leave a voicemail or whatever, but can't wait for you to call them back! 

Take, for example, Tim.  I talked to him Tuesday morning on my way to work.  He asks me what I'm doing this weekend.  I say I would like to go to Savannah with my sister since it's the holiday weekend (not likely now due to the looming gas shortage).  He sends me two text messages while I'm at work to which I cannot respond because I'm slammed since Trent is on vacation.  I spend two hours in traffic on the way home and have to rush out of the house to make it to class on time. 

Meantime, I get a text message:  "Why ru ignoring me?  If u don't want 2 talk 2 me then tell me why n ill quit wastin your time ok?"  What??!!  I just talked to you this morning!  So, I respond to let him know that I've had a rough day and can't talk that night.

Go to work Wednesday.  Come home and meet up with Nate who I've had plans with for a week.  Well, I can't answer my phone while I'm with him, right?  I think that is so rude!  He calls ... then calls, then calls.  So, I shut my phone off.  By the time Nate leaves, I'm pooped so I go to bed.  I turn my phone back on because I use it for my alarm clock ... and Lord help me, I could not fall asleep because everytime that boy called and got my voicemail, he just called right back again.  Over ... and over.

I woke up to a text message that said:  "I wont ever quit calling or texting until u let me know whats up!"

*Chills*  While I'm getting ready for work, he is calling and calling again!  Finally, I worry that he is going to wake Val up so I just shut my phone off.  At lunch, I want to see if he's tried calling again so I turn my phone on while I'm telling some coworkers the story. 

A new text message:  "Haha u think ignoring me will make me go away?  Just the opposite!  If u talk 2 me n tell me why then i will leave u alone but not til then!" 

While I am reading this, my phone starts ringing again!  To show my coworkers what I've been dealing with, I hit reject on my phone so he goes into voicemail.  My phone starts ringing again.  I hit reject again.  This sequence happens a few times.

A new text message comes through:  "I know ur awake (*chills again*) and turned ur phone off ur such a wimp can't even talk, grow up and get a backbone so u can talk 2 me pussy!"  Like that is going to make me call him ...

Another text message:  "Lol ur so gay turnin ur phone off when i call, only a dumbass bitch does shit like that, don't even know what liar means (long story there) haha!  What a dumb blonde!"

And yet ... he still keeps calling ...